RESILIENCE

RESILIENCE

By Ernídio Migliorini

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Resilience is the property that materials present to return to their normal way after they were subjected to utmost tension. In Psychology, it is the capacity to deal with problems and supplant them, taking advantage of the adversity as incentive for overcoming. This capacity, if developed, makes the resilient one, creative, ethic, more resistant, skilful and able to search for solutions for his own problems; He does not prostrate, does not blame the others for his own failures, keeps a good mood and has synergistic energy to work, struggle and win.

The person needs to find support and feel that someone believes in him, so it possible to develop this capacity.

The resilient does not judge his aggressors; He does not classify them as bad and he is able to understand why they acted that way. He does not give his opponents and the problems super powers; He finds it possible to fight with them and to win. There is no fatalism, no lamentation or self-pity.    

He sets well-defined goals, based on concrete, feasible and accomplishable plans in a short term. When one project is accomplished, another one is developed and it serves as a steppingstone for another stage; projects with images, he sees himself in the future with the solution he wants.

The opportunities of evolution are also in the difficulties. “During the crisis, create”. At the moment of crisis, one must formulate an explanation for what is happening: analyze the circumstances, the sequence of facts and the adverse reasons trying to understand the feelings about everything involved. Think about what you are going to do when you overcome the crisis. It will be easier to endure the setback if one already imagines oneself in the future, with the overcoming of the present trouble.

The resilient is ruled by the present time. Start now to change the unwanted situation: act, value the small victories and be free. Establish linkages with people that represent support, courage and motivation, but do not expect them to solve your problems. The best solution is always the one we find for ourselves, using our own competences, abilities, experience and wisdom. We should not be selfish, we should think that our achievements can be an example so the others can also develop the resilience and be winners in their existence.

“The resilient avails all the opportunities to develop even more his resilience with the quality of excellence. (EM).”